On Death and Dying
Felo de se Home Santhara - an alternative
|From Dchad to Loring
in response to Loring Palmer Response about Joan H. to
a Dchad Misc On the deaths of two
The Kevorkian method is what people think of but stopping eating and drinking is what people do spontaneously when they're ready to go. I think it should be acknowledged and discussed so we know up front that ODing on drugs isn't the only way. Stopping intake is a slow and, according to some hospice people I've talked to, fairly pleasant way to go. One very experienced hospice worker I know told me that if you just moisten the lips of a person who isn't drinking and maybe spray a little water in their mouth now and then, that it eliminates most of the difficulty of thirst - something like that. I see a lot of folks in nursing homes that are in states they surely don't want to be in. I think they would have done this if they'd known, if it was part of their education.
I think Ananda might have taken this route if he'd sorted it out before - but I don't mention it. He's said he wanted to die and had his feeding tube taken out and then had it put back in after a couple of days. He's also said he wants to live. The thing is - I don't think it's appropriate for me to bring it up with him. It should have been something we'd talked about before he got in this position - not just in the Living Will sense, but for common knowledge, knowing what our options are. Knowing what to expect. Anyway, I know he likes what I read to him - he's said he's interested in death and dying stuff even though he's not really dying and he's still studying the great matter as far as I can see - even if he is partially paralyzed, grumpy, uncooperative, and diagnosed with Multiple Infarct Dementia.
And incidentally, I don't think we're any closer to death than before, just more aware of
it cause we're older.
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